Sad Self-Delusion

Every time a man tells me, whether in person or via e-mail or on a radio show, that he wears the pants at home, I laugh to myself. I know that the opposite is true: he’s engaged in a sad game of self-delusion.

Most men refuse to understand or believe or learn that they have no rights in the USA, except for the right to remain silent — a right they exercise brilliantly. Men rarely protest any of the injustices in our civil and criminal laws. Yet, they happily will vote for politicians who promise the world to women.

At home, these men live under the false impression that they’re in charge, and their wives and girlfriends are happy to encourage such fantasy. Women know the score. So, what does it mean to wear the pants at home?

I’ve decided to help men understand who’s in charge by making PANTS an acronym, with these five elements: pregnancy, alimony, nest, treasury, and sex — as depicted in the graphic below. As you can see, whoever controls these elements is wearing the pants.

Let’s look at the elements of PANTS, one by one:

• Pregnancy: a woman controls whether she becomes pregnant and whether she remains pregnant (Roe v. Wade). She can legally commit maternity fraud: lie about her fertility or use of contraception. Unless a man produces no sperm, a woman can become pregnant — even if he is wearing a condom: 1) it can break; 2) she can fish a used one out of the trash, impregnate herself, and legally collect child support from the semen’s owner. Also, a woman can legally engage in paternity fraud: become impregnated by one man and tag another (including her own husband) as the father. And, unless the innocent man discovers said fraud by the child’s second birthday, in most states, he owns that child for 18 years. Only Florida allows a victim of paternity fraud out of his child-support responsibility, but he can’t recover past payments. Element winner: the woman.
• Alimony: the receiver of alimony, usually the woman, has enormous power over the payor of alimony, usually the man. Anyone who disputes this is on crack. Element winner: usually the woman.
• Nest: If a relationship produces children, whether legitimate or not, the woman has power to retain the home, especially if she fraudulently files a restraining order against her husband — something that happens routinely in today’s divorces. Most people think that, in a childless marriage, divorce will result in a clean splitting of the assets and that neither spouse can rightfully claim the home. Well, if a woman falsely accuses her husband of rape or domestic violence, he can forget about ever reentering that house. Maybe he eventually can get the divorce judge to force her to sell it, but don’t count on it: judges, especially male and lesbian judges, almost always side with women. Element winner: almost always the woman.
• Treasury: a man who likes to wine & dine women is signaling to them that they can control his and/or “their” treasury throughout their entire relationship — from dating to divorce. I’ve appeared on enough radio and TV shows to safely conclude that most men willingly engage in legal prostitution — paying to have sex with their girlfriends and wives. Some men refuse to live this way, but most relent. Element winner: almost always the woman.
• Sex: most men do not realize that women are the libido champions — they crave sex much more than men, which is why almost all of them own vibrators. Because of their ignorance — and low self-esteem — most men will do almost anything, from spending fortunes to doing ridiculous favors to tolerating verbal and emotional and physical abuse, in exchange for sex with pretty girls. Element winner: almost always the woman.

The NoNonsense Bottom Line

As shown above, in almost all cases, women wear the PANTS — either by law or through sexual manipulation. This ought to be a wakeup call for men, but I’m betting most will continue sheepishly deferring to their women. If you say you’re wearing the pants, you most definitely are not. If you want to wear the pants, accept that, in 2007, you cannot.

This is why having a peer relationship with an unentitled woman is paramount: if, when you meet her, she doesn’t already believe in and practice equality, she will own you — and it will be your fault.

American laws do not protect men at all. No presumption of innocence or due process. But, when women are caught falsely accusing men of rape, they are never prosecuted. Men, consequently, are at the mercy of women — a situation that belies the Constitution and is the result of misandrist lawmakers and judges. But, men, who comprise only 46% of the electorate, keep electing and reelecting the politicians who do them in.

The typical man never thinks about why he spends so much time scheming to get into a woman’s pants. Maybe it’s because she is wearing them. Remember that the next time you reflexively reach into your wallet to fund her meals, her entertainment, her bling, her vacations, her tennis club, her car payments, and … her pants.

About the Author

Marc H. Rudov is an internationally recognized author of 60+ articles and the books Under the Clitoral Hood: How to Crank Her Engine Without Cash, Booze, or Jumper Cables™ (ISBN 9780974501727), and The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth™ (ISBN 0974501719).

Rudov’s books, articles, blog, and podcasts are available at TheNoNonsenseMan.com.

Copyright © 2007 by Marc H. Rudov. All rights reserved.

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