Exposing Women
by Marc H. RudovRampant MissBehaving
In the past week, I read two uncannily similar articles about a growing American trend: unruly fiancées. Betrothed women are exhibiting the wanton, unrestrained behavior once ascribed solely to men celebrating the end of bachelorhood. Moreover, they are exposing themselves and erasing boundaries in ways men never did. Future brides, though, are not alone in their propensity to “MissBehave.†We are seeing raucous female behavior across the spectrum from teenage girls, college girls, and adult womenâ€â€single and married. Alas, this trend exacerbates the double standard that negatively affects men.
In a piece from FoxNews.com entitled “Brides Gone Wild, Grooms Gone Mild,†posted on May 31, 2006, C. Spencer Beggs wrote that women are trekking in droves to Las Vegas for premarital romps and excessive binging on alcohol. Here is a representative quote from Beggs’s article: “It was a blast,” Margie Parsons, of Huber Heights, Ohio, said of her bachelorette party at a strip club. “I got handcuffed to the stage and two women gave me a lap dance.” Nice.
“What happens in Las Vegas stays in Las Vegas†is a popular commercial mantra that must be a source of frustration to the bride-to-be with no boundaries and a penchant for exhibitionism. So, after making a jackass of herself in Sin City, why not continue the insanity on her wedding day?
On June 2, 2006, the Wall Street Journal printed Jon Weinbach’s article, “Brides Gone Wild,†about women hiring photographers and videographers to immortalize them in their bras and panties, just before donning their wedding dresses. Weinbach regales us about a male photog snapping pix of Alison and her 12 bridesmaids in their underwear. Huh? Mrs. Brettschneider, Alison’s mother-in-law from tony Larchmont, NY, reviewed the proofs and deemed a few images inappropriate for public consumption, including one of Alison showing her G-string and back tattoo. “My in-laws weren’t too happy about that,” says the bride, “but it was such a cool shot.” Cool? Mrs. Brettschneider even had to admonish Alison that eventually her future kids would see those shots. Duh. Why didn’t the 29-year-old bride realize this? And, where was the groom? Was he too brainwashed to join in his mortified mother’s rightful objection?
MissBehaving starts young. Look no further than YouTube.com, a global video-viewing phenomenon. This Website allows everyone and anyone to upload videos for the whole world to see. YouTube viewers are watching 50 million videos per dayâ€â€from Hollywood movie trailers to rock-group music videos to wacky home movies to, yes, teenage and college girls doing striptease. Many parents are unaware that their “sweet, innocent†daughters are exposing themselves to the world. Using the webcams of their bedroom and dorm-room PCs, they create provocative videos and upload them to YouTube. Why? Boundaries are meaningless. Exhibitionism is cool.
If you are still naïve enough to believe that women are more faithful than men, check out AshleyMadison.com, which supplies men for women who cheat on their husbands and boyfriends. When Monogamy Becomes Monotony is the motto of this service. Shocked? Welcome to reality. Bonus for the unsuspecting husband: If his cheating wife’s tryst produces a child, and he raises this child as his own, most states will force him to support it until age 18â€â€even if he later discovers that he is not the child’s father. Ain’t MissBehavin’ great?
Much Ado About Nothing?
Do I care that women get drunk at strip joints, pose half-nude for their wedding albums, perform striptease on YouTube, and cheat on their husbands? At one level, I don’t care. We live in a free society. Why, then, do I want to expose women for exposing themselves? Two reasons. First, I am a member of society, and any deterioration of my society affects me. Deterioration of society from within the family begets more and larger government programs to compensate for what the family lacks. This is an atrocious state of affairs, antithetical to the principles of the United States.
Second, our society believes that women are better behaved than men, despite evidence to the contrary. After all, we’re not reading about grooms and their best men posing in their underwear for wedding albums, are we? The women described in this article are permitted to become mothers, role models, and they are ill-equipped to teach children right vs. wrong. Those children will, in turn, become parents and perpetuate the weakening of society’s fabric.
Accordingly, policemen and judges in family and criminal courts tend to presume womenâ€â€especially mothersâ€â€innocent, while presuming menâ€â€especially fathersâ€â€guilty, giving women wide latitude to bend and even violate court orders. A highly esteemed lawyer once told me that judges deem identical behavior as violence, coming from a man, and emotion, coming from a woman. In almost all cases, when a woman confesses to falsely accusing a man of rapeâ€â€a false accusation is a felonyâ€â€she is released unpunished. And, every time Bill O’Reilly, host of The O’Reilly Factor on Fox News, debates Geraldo Rivera about an adult female, especially a teacher, having sex with a minor boy, Rivera laughs it off as a joke. It isn’t a joke.
As I’ve written previously, the double standard exists on TV, too. Women can endlessly insult and assault men, and America considers that funny. But, if men were to behave similarly toward women on any TV show, it would be off the air after one episode.
This anti-male bias, which begins in elementary schools, is unreasonable and unfair to all of society. In elementary schools, teachers confer upon girls, who tend to be mild at that age, behavior-benchmark status. When boys act rambunctiously, as they do at that age, many teachers force their parents to put them on Ritalin. Women good, men bad. Girls good, boys bad.
This anti-male bias raises its ugly head in our reproductive and domestic-violence laws. Here are but three examples:
- Roe v. Wadeâ€â€gives women the right to choose abortion, gives men no rights
- VAWA (Violence Against Women Act)â€â€gives women, even illegal aliens, wide latitude and financial assistance to accuse and falsely accuse men of violence; provides no legal relief or financial assistance to men whom women physically abuse, even though women and men physically abuse each other in equal percentages
- Safe-Haven Lawsâ€â€47 states allow women, without penalty, to deposit their unwanted newborns at fire stations within 72 hours of birth, and to change their minds two weeks thereafter. Men must abide by whatever decisions the women make.
No-Nonsense Bottom Line
Clearly, men are limited in their rights and behaviors. Women, on the other hand, are behaving in ways unimagined just a few years agoâ€â€with impunity, indulgence, and great latitude. A woman can waltz into the office, dressed provocatively. If a man makes even a flattering comment to her, and she decides to make an issue of it, his life can end on that day. Women have gone wild and are becoming wilder. They are MissBehaving rampantly and the government encourages it.
If our society continues to tolerate the double standard that condones women and condemns men for identical behaviors, continues to offer special privileges to women, and fails to criticize women and hold them accountable for their MissBehaving, this trendline will lead us to a predictable, preventable, ultimate end, embodied by three bleak outcomes:
- Men will become almost irrelevant
- Women will self-destruct
- Children will become criminals and wards of the state.
About the Author
Marc H. Rudov is an investment banker and business consultant residing in Silicon Valley, CA. He is the author of the book, The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet EarthTM (ISBN 0974501719), and 19 articles.
Rudov’s book, articles, blog, and podcasts are available at http://www.thenononsenseman.com/.
Copyright ©2006 by Marc H. Rudov. All rights reserved.
June 4th, 2006 at 3:59 pm
Great article by Marc Rudov. I agree with his opinion and perceptions about the increasingly out-of-control behavior by large numbers of American women.
I do not particularly agree with at least one of his last three sentences:
“If our society continues to tolerate the double standard that condones women and condemns men for identical behaviors, continues to offer special privileges to women, and fails to criticize women and hold them accountable for their MissBehaving, this trendline will lead us to a predictable, preventable, ultimate end, embodied by three bleak outcomes:
1. Men will become almost irrelevant
2. Women will self-destruct
3. Children will become criminals and wards of the state.
Men will never become “almost irrelvant” in society, as understood by the witticism that an all-female society would flourish amid great leaps and advances………. right up until someone’s plumbing stops working.
Marc probably should have written that men are in danger of becoming irrelevant as the heads of households for a large percentage of society, replaced by the state…… or the village, as the case may be.
Whether or not American women “self-destruct”, I don’t plan on marrying any.
There are simply no benefits to men for doing so that are not also available to men without marrying them.
If I truly were interested in marriage, I would look elsewhere, where women are not encouraged to behave with abandon, abetted by institutionalized misandry and the vagina ideologies.
Children are becoming criminals - certainly a large percentage of the male population, but far from exclusively (as evidenced by the 17-year-old woman killed with a pocketknife while trying to rob a Marine with three “buddies” last week).
Boys are being criminalized for simply kissing a classmate in kindergarten, and they face increasing hurdles as they grow older, many of those boys without fathers available to teach them HOW to behave like men ought to.
June 4th, 2006 at 9:47 pm
Marc is leading a new breed of men helping to expose the consequences of feminism. He’s intelligent writer armed with facts and common sense.
June 5th, 2006 at 7:36 am
Great article Marc. I have to agree with the other comments here. I do not think men will ever be irrelevant either. I do think they will become 4th class citizens (they are already 2nd class now). Men need to interact with this society differently. Maybe not all women are feminists but virtually all women have taken the advantages and privileges they have(given to them by men) and damaged the lives of men. This happens everyday still in family court, employment, education, and in other areas of the law, to name a few. 8 in 10 divorces are initiated by women. More than half of the marriages end in divorce. On top of that are the huge social costs picked up by taxpayers. The last two generations of women have been an utter disaster for America. Men have to interact differently with society. That means no marriage to American women. That means working towards independence and
self-employment. That also means different cultural norms and behavior for men towards women. No more, say, “gentlemenly courtesy”. When women grow old and alone and find that many men can be hostile, when women experience some measure of pain, in proportion to that which men have experienced for decades from women, THEN, women may start to empathise with the plight of men. And then women may change and be willing to finally see honestly, the injustices against men.
That will mark the beginning of the end of this war.
June 5th, 2006 at 7:41 am
I appreciate all of your comments. By the way, I did not write that men would become irrelevant; I opined that they would become ALMOST irrelevant. If you don’t think it’s already true, you aren’t paying attention. — Marc Rudov
June 5th, 2006 at 10:13 am
Men being almost irrelevant will only last as long as men allow it to last. If and when enough men get bitten by the government on this issue, it will come to a rather abrupt stop.
Momentum is building to stop it right now, based on many of the things I have read on MND as well as elsewhere. The pendulum is slowing, and will start to swing back in the other direction. If the radical feminists try to force the issue too much, then it will swing back all the harder and faster into a more traditional model.
June 5th, 2006 at 11:33 am
Wayne, I do not agree with your premise that men are in the driver’s seat and can reverse the anti-male tide themselves.
The US Senate — mostly men — voted 100-0 to reauthorize VAWA 2006. Senator Biden, the “father of VAWA” and a man, is the biggest man-hater of them all. The President of the United States, a man, signed VAWA into law … again.
Unless all WOMEN band together to mitigate this unfortunate situation, men are permanently screwed. Our entire culture is anti-male because men sat back for too long, allowing it happen. Turning around the Queen Mary is a difficult task, but a necessary task.
Watch my TV clip, accessible on the homepage of TheNoNonsenseMan.com. You can see the women in the studio audience trying to justify why they don’t have to buy men dinner. Simply amazing.
June 5th, 2006 at 1:01 pm
I think people are starting to notice what is going on. Over the weekend on “Fox & Friends”, the women on the show were cheering the news about marriage rates for older women going up. The only guy on the panel said “That’s not what I’m hearing on the golf course!”
I think it is at least acceptable now to mention that men are not completely happy with the way things are. For a long time, saying anything could get you in trouble.
June 6th, 2006 at 12:19 am
[The US Senate  mostly men  voted 100-0 to reauthorize VAWA 2006.]
The VAWA is a criminal vote-buying scheme. The perverse “family court” system is a vote-buying scheme. You need to get on your show and talk about that.
Women comprise 52% of the voting population. They are not “minorities”. They are a tyrannical majority that have transformed America into a vagina-ideology totalitarian police state that is becoming extremely dangerous, not just for American men, but for the entire world.
I am thinking some articles written about how women are the voting majority, how criminal politicians buy their votes by allocating $billions to the VAWA and other anti-male undemocratic legislation, and how those same politicians have given American women a license to steal through the terrorist family court system would go a long way into kick-starting a return to “democracy” in the United States.
That is what is going on. If people are going to speak for “men”, they need to talk about the key issues men face and stop beating around the bush. We are killing Islamic men in foreign countries now because they make women wear veils. It is only a matter of time before the American majority of women and their political cronies get us all killed.
June 6th, 2006 at 8:46 am
While men are out working, some women volunteer to make up a large grass root organization to help causes like VAWA and education.
In Hoffman Estates, Illinois during election year, I overheard a few women offer to drive senior citizens to the polls to vote for their cause.
While men are at work our women help build a male-hating culture. The less active women are brain washed by the hours of anti-male daytime television.
Few women are grateful that men provide a home, food, clothing, and protection. Instead women feel entitled to more privilege and luxury.
This is enough for one to consider becoming Amish where men still rule.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amish