So many people fret about how long to wait before calling a new paramour, right after the first phonecall or meeting. Why? If you want to call her, call. If she balks or gets turned off, she is no good for you.

If you dislike a woman to call you the day after your date with her, you have a problem. Game-playing in dating leads to headgames in relationships. Yet, so many people play the endless games.

Read my comments about this topic in a recent interview with Genoa Sibold-Cohn of TriCityHerald.

Yes, folks, the female double standard lives! Debra LaFave, the former schoolteacher from Tampa who raped a 14-year-old boy, was rewarded today with a slap on the wrist. Our society continues to hold women to a lower standard of behavior.

Recently, for example, a college girl from Florida Atlantic University admitted to falsely accusing her boyfriend of rape. The punishment for lying? None. The chief of police in the case decided against prosecuting the liar, who could have sent her innocent boyfriend to prison. The police chief felt that admitting the lie to her parents would be punishment enough for her. Where’s my violin?

Had the gender roles been reversed in the rapist-teacher case, a male teacher would have been jailed without issue. The real kicker, of course, is that Debra LaFave blamed bipolar disorder for her behavior. I’m in tears, Debra. The hysterical part of this story is that LaFave now wants to become a journalist. You go, girl.

The double standard is that an underaged boy is not harmed by sexual intercourse with an adult woman. Only girls and women can be harmed. That’s because our society doesn’t care about boys and men. Boys and men are impervious to harm, right? Had LaFave gotten pregnant, the boy’s life would have been ruined from teenage fatherhood and child support. But, nobody cares because he is, after all, just a male.

NoNonsense Bottom Line: girls who are not forced to grow up, don’t grow up — ever.

Buck Wolf, who writes “The Wolf Files” for ABCNews.com, asked me to match the habitual-loner George Clooney with a new woman. What pressure!

CLICK HERE to read what I advised Mr. Clooney.

According to Marc H. Rudov, author of The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth (ISBN: 0974501719), plenty of men and women are still suffering from indigestion over who picks up the dinner check. He’s done plenty of radio shows around the world on this topic, and he labels as prostitutes, right on the air, all female callers who feel entitled to be wined & dined.

Recently, Marc conducted a wining/dining poll on his Website (www.TheNoNonsenseMan.com) to quantify how men and women feel about this touchy topic. The results of this poll became the basis for his article, “Her Double-D’s Can Bankrupt You.”

Marc appeared on The Next Step, which runs on channel 27 in Palo Alto, CA. CLICK HERE to watch the highlights of this incendiary TV show.

The National Center for Men has prepared a lawsuit, nicknamed Roe v. Wade for Men, to be filed Thursday (March 9, 2006) in US District Court in Michigan, on behalf of a 25-year-old computer programmer ordered to pay child support for his ex-girlfriend’s daughter. The suit addresses the issue of male reproductive rights, contending that lack of such rights violates the US Constitution’s equal protection clause.

Read the entire article

Women are the unhappiest mammals on Planet Earth. How else could one explain labiaplasty? Facelifts, tummy tucks, boobjobs, eyejobs, cheek implants, liposuction, collagenized lips. Now, they’re reshaping and reducing their labia?!?!? Is there one part of a woman’s anatomy that she actually accepts or likes? Too bad James Watt didn’t invent the esteem engine. Women would be breaking down the doors to buy it.

How frequently must I hear from women that they prefer the company of men because their female friends endlessly whine and complain? How often must I hear that legions of girls who, in 2006, attend college only to obtain MRS degrees and snag men to take care of them? I’m not kidding. In fact, it’s worse than that. Recently, while a guest on a talkshow in Charlotte, NC, a 22-year-old college girl called me on the air to admit that many of her girlfriends are engaged in trading sex for car payments and clothes from their male classmates. Wow! Female unhappiness abounds. When women disrespect other women, I know there’s a problem. Men don’t speak this way about each other.

Glance at the headlines of the leading women’s magazines in the supermarket checkout lane. How many of them presume women to be happy? Zero. Why? Because they know women were socialized to be miserable. Allow me to paraphrase a great quote of Benjamin Franklin by placing him in a modern-day romantic scenario in which his woman incessantly complains. After reaching his limit one day, Ben turns to her, saying: “Baby, the Declaration of Independence only guarantees you the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself!” What a concept.

If fathers — and mothers — would only speak Franklin’s words to their young daughters, dating and marriage could become healthy, enjoyable endeavors. Unfortunately, that is not what happens. The typical father, especially the divorced father, assuages his awkwardness with female double standards by overcompensating through underparenting. He thinks that acceding to every one of his daughter’s whims, demands, and tantrums is a sign of love. It isn’t. He is doing her and himself a huge disservice. Now, multiply this by millions of cases.

When dealing with rebellious daughters, way too many fathers cave, defer, coddle, and spoil. Result? An entire generation of immature women untrained to know happiness, ill-equipped to be independent adults — let alone girlfriends and spouses. A woman raised this way doesn’t grasp that SHE is responsible for her own happiness. She doesn’t realize that happiness is a choice, that happiness is self-made — a byproduct of achievement, not a goal itself, not a present somebody else can give her, not a new item she can buy on sale at Victoria’s Secret.

Will a woman in constant search of happiness ever find a man who can please her? No. Will she ever experience true intimacy? No. Will she ever find enough clothes to make her happy? No. Will she ever be able to have enough plastic surgeries to quell her insecurities? No. In fact, she’ll never be happy.

Just as a woman, like a man, cannot become physically fit until she comprehends the rules of fitness and assumes full responsibility for her fitness — meaning she must acquire it for and by herself — she cannot become happy until she comprehends the rules of happiness and assumes full responsibility for her own happiness.

Let’s say that every woman on Planet Earth reads this article, agrees with me, and decides instantaneously to become happy. What would our life be like? Below, I have listed 10 signs that our world is populated with happy women.

Ten Signs Happy Women Populate Planet Earth

1. Divorce rate plummets to 10%; custody fights are relics of the past
2. Most women’s magazines cease operations
3. Women publicly praise men and fatherhood
4. Marriage rate increases to 90%
5. Divorce courts treat men and women equally
6. Unmarried pregnant women who unilaterally choose to give birth are solely responsible for supporting their children, ending paternity suits
7. Men respect women and no longer wine & dine or objectify them
8. Plastic surgery is a marginal industry
9. National Organization for Women (NOW), whose victimhood propaganda now falls on deaf ears, is extinct
10. Congress scraps the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), and all states remove anti-male biases in domestic-violence laws

Parting Comments

Our culture imbues us with female double standards — allowing women to be equal in the workplace and privileged outside of it — which most people find tough to overcome. Why else would men still wine & dine women, despite the custom being outmoded and demeaning? It is ingrained thinking, which I think of as “social gravity.” When astronauts experience an absence of Earth’s gravity, they modify their basic behaviors. Accordingly, the absence of social gravity will force men and women to modify their basic behaviors, too.

So, for women to attain real happiness, and, consequently, harmony with men, they must operate absent the double-standard social gravity that perpetuates generations of miserable women and destroys mutually satisfying romance. Based on my experience, I doubt that happy women ever will populate Planet Earth to the extent I’d like to see. But, I can say this: If women were happy, men would be happier to spend more time with them. Guaranteed.

Here are my three suggestions to ending female unhappiness:

1. Parents — especially fathers — must train their daughters that only through personal achievement will they find happiness
2. Adult women previously raised with attitudes of entitlement, expecting happiness from external sources, must kick that addictive habit and learn to earn happiness by setting and achieving goals
3. Men must stop getting sucked into the no-win game of making women happy. If women aren’t happy when you meet them, find other women who already are happy.

About the Author

Marc H. Rudov is an investment banker and business consultant residing in Silicon Valley, CA. He is the author of the book The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth^TM (ISBN 0974501719) and 15 articles:

• “Five Myths About Women”
• “Romance Lessons from Tsunami Animals”
• “The Golden Rule Dictates Your Sex Life”
• “Why Men Dread Valentine’s Day”
• “How Every Man Can Land His Dream Woman”
• “Cellular Compatibility & Great Sex”
• “Can Men and Women Really Get Along?”
• “Why Men Avoid Commitment”
• “Did Your Make Your New Year’s Revolution?”
• “Will She Call 911 on You?”
• “Will Women Halt the Death of Marriage?”
• “BreakUp Means BreakUp!”
• “Love Hurts”
• “The Power of Aural Sex”
• “If Women Were Happy”

Rudov’s book, articles, blog, and podcasts are available at www.TheNoNonsenseMan.com.

Copyright © 2006 by Marc H. Rudov. All rights reserved.

By Marc H. Rudov

Canine Lingus

It’s a time-honored belief that the dog is man’s best friend. Yes, a dog will fetch your slippers, scare an intruder, and help you hunt — if that’s your sport. But, a dog also will sap your wallet from the food, grooming, toys, and kennel services you must purchase. Fido will require frequent walking, shed fur on your sofa, pee on your carpet, bark when you’re not home, and bite the mailman. Given the 65 million dogs in the USA, though — one canine for every 4.5 humans — it’s clear that people tolerate much to have their faces licked.

Even if he doesn’t realize it, every man with a girlfriend or wife has a better friend than a dog: his woman’s clitoris, her clit. If a man likes the comfort of his dog loyally following him around, breathing heavily with its tongue hanging out, he will love the effect he can have on his woman by taking command of her clit. A woman’s clit is her master switch; every woman dreams of the man who can toggle it. According to my lady friends, though, most men either don’t know the clit’s location or operation sequence, or they view it as an arcade game to be accessed and activated only by feeding it cash. How very sad.

Perpetuating the Myth

The other night, I caught part of Bill Engvall’s act on Comedy Central. He’s funny, but his bit about sexual frustration is the trite nonsense so typical of male comics. Engvall had the audience in stitches as he bemoaned both the apparent ability of women — sexual camels, he called them — to cruise through numerous sexless weeks and, because of this apparent ability, the scheming required to bed them. I figured the men in the audience were laughing because they identify with the plaintive comedian, and the women were laughing because they secretly know he’s full of it. Why do entertainers keep spewing this sexual fiction? Are they that lousy in bed? Enough already. Now I know why I see so many men driving trucks accompanied only by their dogs.

Often, when a guy goes out on a date with a woman, his friends will ask him, the next day, if he “got lucky” the night before. Lucky means that a woman is magnanimous enough to grant him the rare opportunity to “have his way” with her. Lucky? Any man who believes he is lucky to have sex with a woman knows nothing about women and their libidos. Nothing.

Probably the most-famous Seinfeld episode is “The Contest.” It’s about Jerry, George, Elaine, and Kramer competing to be the one who can abstain the longest from masturbation. In the opening scene, the foursome is at its familiar table in the coffee shop, where George admits that his mother had just caught him in a “self-pleasuring” session. Humiliated, he vows to his friends never to repeat such behavior, ever again.

Jerry doubts George’s oath of abstinence. So, George challenges Jerry to a duel of self-restraint. They wager $100. Kramer wants in, of course, as does Elaine. But, the three guys resist Elaine’s participation because of her unfair advantage: she’s a woman. Women, they claim, don’t have the same intense need as men to masturbate. George wants 2:1 odds from Elaine; Kramer demands $1000! Elaine offers $150, which the guys quickly accept.

This Seinfeld episode, which first aired in November 1992, broke all kinds of ground in sitcoms. It cleverly covered a taboo topic — masturbation — without ever mentioning the word. It was brilliantly written and acted, and is absolutely hilarious. There’s only one flaw in it: it’s based on a myth, a lie, about female lasciviousness — a myth that we have been socialized to believe.

The Reality

Our misconception about the female libido is at the root of all behavior between men and women. It makes men behave stupidly and waste lots of money, time, and energy to get laid. It allows women to manipulate men for presents and vacations. The reality is that women masturbate more frequently than men, and in more venues — the car, the office, the airplane, wherever they want. Women use vibrators. Let’s face it: Women are more sexual than men.

Andrew Dice Clay, a comedian quite popular in the ’90s, once said that, if he could suck his own member, he never would leave the house. We haven’t heard much from him lately; so, maybe he’s achieved his objective. In a similar vein, I’ve always wondered whether being equipped with a woman’s sexual capabilities would keep me homebound, too. I mean, if I could come a few times per minute, like a woman, why would I ever want to play tennis or ride my bike? For this reason, I highly admire women who have achieved anything!

When I ask women why they use vibrators, they answer: “Using my hand takes too long.” Women aren’t only horny, they’re impatient and demanding! Shocking, isn’t it. It’s rare that I meet a vibratorless woman. Sex toys are big business, with annual purchases in the USA estimated at $500M. And, these sex toys are not for men — at least not the men in the Red states. Women just can’t live without their daily orgasms, and they freely divulge this to me.

Eva Longoria, a star of Desperate Housewives, claims to have crate-loads of sex toys stashed in her garage for dispensing as presents to her friends. She told the Daily Mirror: “It is important for women to be in touch with their sexuality … they [sex toys] are the best present because a lot of women won’t go buy one.” In a recent interview with Rolling Stone magazine, she confessed that her best sex of the year was probably with her vibrator. She continued: “I give that [Rabbit vibrator] as a gift all the time to other girls for a birthday or the like. It’s the best gift to give: an orgasm.” Men certainly don’t behave this way.

Why are women so super-sexual? Simple: the clit and the multi-orgasm. They hate for men to know this; it counters everything men have been taught — because society has pressured girls to downplay, deny, and suppress their sexual cravings. At the end of the day, though, the clit has only one purpose: sexual arousal. A man has no body part 100% dedicated to sexual arousal. So, the combo of a dedicated sexual body part and the ability to achieve multiple orgasms makes the woman a human sex machine. Getting the picture, now?

Operating Her Master Switch

Earlier, I wrote that the typical man thinks the clit is coin-operated. He reflexively grabs his wallet in a woman’s presence, believing the wining-and-dining ritual will arouse her. It doesn’t. It can make her happy, like a princess, but it doesn’t turn her on. It’s amazing how many women have spent years with men, living in financial comfort, without ever being truly aroused.

A woman’s clit is voice-operated, not coin-operated. She likes aural sex — a man activating her master switch with his voice and words, especially over the phone. Now, this won’t sit well with men who try to seduce women with their financial assets. But, the reality is, skillful aural sex is true power.

The key is talking to her, honestly and candidly, as a peer — without promising to buy her something or take her somewhere. She will appreciate that and respect you for being much more than your wallet. If, however, she insists on being purchased, like a parcel of land, let someone else make a bid — you don’t want her. If you still want her, knowing this, you are your own enemy. Even in 2006, I still encounter educated women who are girls in adult bodies, forever needing daddies. I’ve learned to dismiss them with lightning speed.

Being natural works like a charm. It is the essence of the no-nonsense man. Trust me. Women tell me constantly that I am quite different from most men, and they like it. They are open with me, and I easily access, activate, and operate their master switches. Alas, to avoid compromising my personal life, I will not provide more detail. So, instead, I recommend, for review, that you read the “The Art of Seduction” chapter of my book, The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth.

A genuine woman will respond to a man’s natural behavior with openly expressed sexual attraction and desire — without expecting financial rewards. That’s how to confirm she genuinely wants you. So, now that you know the truth about her — that she wants sex more than you do — you have no more excuses for buying your way in. Once you get access to and activate her master switch, her clit, you’re almost home. You also must operate it effectively. When she follows you anywhere, tongue akimbo, you’ve arrived and acquired your new best friend. If, however, she always “needs her space” and her beauty sleep, you haven’t. Don’t give up, though. The journey is worth it. There are other women, too. Besides, if worst comes to worst, you always can buy a puppy.

About the Author

Marc H. Rudov is an investment banker and business consultant residing in Silicon Valley, CA. He is the author of the book The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth^TM (ISBN 0974501719) and 15 articles:

• “Five Myths About Women”
• “Romance Lessons from Tsunami Animals”
• “The Golden Rule Dictates Your Sex Life”
• “Why Men Dread Valentine’s Day”
• “How Every Man Can Land His Dream Woman”
• “Cellular Compatibility & Great Sex”
• “Can Men and Women Really Get Along?”
• “Why Men Avoid Commitment”
• “Did Your Make Your New Year’s Revolution?”
• “Will She Call 911 on You?”
• “Will Women Halt the Death of Marriage?”
• “BreakUp Means BreakUp!”
• “Love Hurts”
• “The Power of Aural Sex”
• “If Women Were Happy”

Rudov’s book, articles, blog, and podcasts are available at www.TheNoNonsenseMan.com.

Copyright © 2006 by Marc H. Rudov. All rights reserved.

by Marc H. Rudov

Are you sitting on the proverbial “romantic sidelines” because you’re sick of relationships and want to avoid the pain of yet another breakup? You are not alone. You are surrounded by legions from the heartbreak club. When it comes to love, people seem so vulnerable and afraid—as if the heart is the weakest muscle in the human body.

Actually, you are alone and will remain so, as long as you won’t get back in the game to find a new paramour. You keep telling yourself that you’d rather be alone than with the wrong person. Fair enough. But, how much TV can you watch? How many nights can you stare at the ceiling? How many events can you attend unaccompanied? At what point do you get sick of seeing your friends when you’d rather be canoodling a lover?

In the past month, a dozen of my acquaintances—men and women—told me they had ceased searching for new lovers, for reasons of exhaustion, frustration, and avoidance of future evisceration. Their tales of woe correlate with the e-mails I receive from around the world. Being a couple has lost the appeal it once had. People seem to value independence above all these days.

Sometimes love hurts, especially when it ends. But, all failures hurt. Certainly you’ve lost a job or seen your business tank. Did that stop you from trying again? No. But, somehow, a failed romance makes a lot of us throw in the towel for a long time. Why? It’s the fear of more heartbreak. We assume the same thing will happen again. Why repeat a bad experience, right? The question is, Did you learn anything from your mistakes—other than to wince at pain? If not, you will be doomed to repeat them, just as George Santayana predicted.

Fear of Flying

I assume that, at some point in your life, you flew a kite. You probably remember the times, especially on violently windy days, when you got the kite ten feet off the ground, only to see it rise quickly then unexpectedly turn upside-down and come crashing back to earth.

Commercial jets are as vulnerable to the vicissitudes of wind as that downed kite you tried to fly, with a lot more at stake—human lives. They face the danger known as wind shear—abrupt change in wind speed or direction during takeoff and landing. Wind shear is the leading cause of airline fatalities.

Yet, we still fly, don’t we? Has any airline terminated its business because of potential wind shear? Do you know anyone who has stopped flying because he fears wind shear? Seeing an airplane on TV, in a smoldering heap of twisted metal on a tarmac, is painful. Yet, life goes on. Because all aircraft and airports are equipped with windshear-detection systems, pilots are now pretty skillful at identifying, steering around, and flying past danger zones. In essence, the airline industry is forewarned from the pain of the past and is forearmed to prevent or minimize calamity today and in the future. What a concept!

Let Pain Be Your Guidepost

You can likewise equip yourself with an early-warning, pain-detection system. Why should you stop “flying” through life because of pain from your past? Do you want to live a life of avoidance or one of mobility? Sounds like an easy choice. Unfortunately, after a string of failures in love, most people choose avoidance.

So, how can we choose mobility? Transform your definition of pain from a force of fear that freezes you to one of knowledge that guides and moves you ahead. Most people view PAIN as: Past Anguish Inhibiting Now, meaning that pain is heavy baggage from the past that stops life today. Stinking thinking.

Instead, view PAIN^TM as: Past Anguish Informing Now. Like business, love is an obstacle course. Accept it. Learn to identify, steer around, and fly past the danger zones—undesirable situations and people. Always be picky, choose wisely, and move forward. Enjoy romance. Never demand anything you can’t deliver. Being alone is safe, yes, but so damned unfulfilling. Now, take off!

About the Author

Marc H. Rudov is an investment banker and business consultant residing in Silicon Valley, CA. He is the author of the book The Man’s No-Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth^TM (ISBN 0974501719) and 15 articles:

• “Five Myths About Women”
• “Romance Lessons from Tsunami Animals”
• “The Golden Rule Dictates Your Sex Life”
• “Why Men Dread Valentine’s Day”
• “How Every Man Can Land His Dream Woman”
• “Cellular Compatibility & Great Sex”
• “Can Men and Women Really Get Along?”
• “Why Men Avoid Commitment”
• “Did Your Make Your New Year’s Revolution?”
• “Will She Call 911 on You?”
• “Will Women Halt the Death of Marriage?”
• “BreakUp Means BreakUp!
• “Love Hurts”
• “The Power of Aural Sex”
• “If Women Were Happy

Rudov’s book, articles, blog, and podcasts are available at www.TheNoNonsenseMan.com. Copyright © 2006 by Marc H. Rudov. All rights reserved.